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Things worth asking each other

Question lists, games and date night ideas for the two of you. Written by the people who make Ottermates, so they are the questions we would actually put in the app.

Want to play rather than read? Today's round gives the two of you three questions to answer and reveal together, free and with nothing to install.

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Two otters at the centre of a wide calm bay with small channels of water branching outwards around them

The master list · 14 min read

204 questions for couples

Twelve sections, sorted by what you actually need tonight: first dates, date nights, the practical ones, and the hard ones for when something is wrong.

Two otters at golden hour looking out at three paths of water leading in different directions

Date night · 8 min read

What to do for date night, by mood

40 ideas sorted by how much either of you has left in the tank, from nothing at all to worth getting dressed for.

Two otters close together in evening water, one leaning in mid whisper while the other laughs

Games · 9 min read

80 truth or dare questions for couples

Sorted easy to bold, with four rules that stop a two person game going flat after the fourth turn.

Two otters face to face holding up small blank paddles, answering at the same moment

Quiz · 9 min read

How well do you know me: 60 questions

Six scored rounds that get harder as you go, with a scoring method that makes the result worth arguing about.

Two otters in a sheltered cove that feels like a room, warm lantern light above and two cups on a wooden ledge

Date night · 10 min read

45 at home date night ideas

Sorted by vibe, plus a step by step for planning a night in that does not collapse into dinner and a screen.

Two otters in separate pools divided by a low ridge, each reaching a paw towards the other under one evening sky

Long distance · 10 min read

40 long distance date ideas

Live dates, async ones for bad time zones, and LDR games. Built around the fact that the empty video call is the problem.

Two otters under warm string lights with a simple wooden board between them

Date night · 7 min read

30 date night games for two

From the ones you can play right now to a longer night in. No printing, no shopping, no board required.

Two otters facing each other at dusk with a small floating tray of food between them

Date night · 7 min read

32 date night questions

Arranged across the evening: light to start, better in the middle, warmer at the end.

Two otters back to back holding up small cards, answering at the same moment

Party games · 6 min read

35 who knows the couple best questions

For showers, weddings and parties, including the who is more likely round and a set for guests.

Two otters floating close together in conversation, small speech-bubble clouds drifting between them

Questions and games · 9 min read

87 conversation starters for couples

Grouped by when you would actually use them: over dinner, in the car, at the end of the night, and after years together.

Two otters side by side holding scoring pebbles, with a row of pebbles counted out on a rock beside them

Questions and games · 9 min read

The couples quiz

Fifty questions in five scored rounds, with a scoring guide and what your result actually means.

Two otters floating face to face on either side of a fork in the current, each weighing a different choice

Questions and games · 11 min read

160 would you rather questions for couples

Warm-up, funny, deep, future and long distance, plus the variant that stops you both agreeing out of politeness.

Two otters floating on their backs, daydreaming castle, rocket and island shapes in the clouds

Questions and games · 8 min read

110 what if questions for couples

Hypotheticals from easy and funny to the ones that actually reveal something, plus how to ask them so the answers stay honest.

Two otters either side of a driftwood raft holding smooth pebbles arranged like game pieces

Comparison · 9 min read

The best couple games, compared

Apps and offline classics, with live ratings. We make one of them and say so in its own entry.

Several pairs of otters floating in a row on the water, one pair in the foreground

Comparison · 8 min read

The best apps for couples

Six apps compared with live ratings and what each is genuinely best at. We make one of them and say which.

Two pairs of otters floating either side of a divide in the water, looking across at each other

Comparison · 6 min read

Ottermates vs Paired

What actually separates them, what Paired costs and why that is hard to find, and which suits you.

More guides on the way

Still to come: a set written for long distance couples, at-home date night ideas, and the master list of questions for couples.

Or skip the reading. Ottermates sends the two of you one question a day. You both answer, and neither of you sees the other's answer until you have both had your say.

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